I started Misfit Matriarch six years ago. I was a 20-something raising a preschooler. This blog began as a college assignment, but it grew into something more for me. As a new mother I needed a place to talk about the ways society began to view me, and the experiences that evolved from responding to, and living within, the strong opinions many folks tend to harbour about young, working-class, single mothers. I began to realize, understand, and articulate my identities around class, gender, sexuality, and health.
As people read my work I receive messages offering help, letting me know I am not alone. More excitingly, I receive thanks for creating a place where others do not have to feel alone. Additionally, as a writer, it doesn’t hurt to have a space where I can practice, improve, and develop my voice.
Misfit Matriarch is about my experiences. Though my child, of course, plays a huge role in these experiences, this blog is not about them. I often check in around consent of their inclusion. This blog is not about complaining, as one angry man suggested on Twitter, it is about calling out systems and cultures based in patriarchal motherhood. I am reclaiming my mothering and shaping my motherhood with this blog.
I have grown politically, embarrassed by past comfortable ideas of what is ‘good’, I want to focus on positive change. Thanks to the ongoing conversations of motherhood, with peers, online, and in academia, I continue to find the vocabulary to integrate these ideas into my work here. It may be embarrassing at times, to read earlier posts, but this piece of the internet tells my story- even the cringe worthy parts.
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