This blog has been going for four years now! I’m going to get sentimental on you all and say thank you so much for the support. I like to laugh at my hate mail so much, sometimes I forget to acknowledge how many messages of support I receive.
We all have so much in common!
To the people who thank me for articulating what they have been going through, your messages always make my day. I am happy that I can use what I love most – writing and mommyhood – to help. Also, a huge thanks to those who are not parents, but message me to ask questions or to say they were more patient than usual with a crying baby on the bus that day. And of course, anyone who says I am smart and/or funny, I straight up adore you.
I have a very big male readership; I think this is noteworthy since it is very important for everyone to know that parenthood is not strictly a woman’s job or interest. The female-only nurturing role is a social construct and I think this stat hints at this.
Since starting this blog I have become more involved with social activist projects, have received my diploma in journalism, and have started my BA in women and gender studies. I have bylines online and in print with different publications. I’ve been interviewed for magazines, radio, newspapers, and on film. My baby is in Grade 2 now, I’ve acquired a few more cats, and my partner has moved in. I’m living the last days as a twenty-something parent. Time has passed and experience has been gained. I have met so many wonderful people along the way, who have taught me so much.
I have recently gone through the blog and realized how much I have grown, and how open I am to continue doing so. I kept a lot of posts up, because I think growth is important to document, but I have deleted a couple.
One had a subtle racism to it that I did not realize until coming back to it. It was making light of the “gangster rap” culture appropriated by suburban white kids. That’s where I was living at the time and did not realize how problematic making light of appropriation was. Honestly, I didn’t even know the word at that point. I am pretty embarrassed about this post, and it’s place in the original prints of my first zine. I want to apologize for this, and though it was not intended to offend anyone it may have and that is totally not cool. At the time I thought I was making fun of dumb white kids, now I know differently.
The other post has to do with how I used to really look up to Craig Kielburger. If you don’t know him he is a privileged white guy who started a foundation to help kids doing factory work in other countries. I don’t think he and his work are inherently evil. Free the Children was an ambitious project for a twelve-year-old and his buds. I do think, however, that there is a western supremacist, white saviour factor at play. Also, his organizations have many a corporate sponsors that they are terrified of making mad (I had a job interview with Me to We years ago, and the fantasy came crashing down). A friend of mine posed that for a kid, he had some pretty cool politics. However, this liberal “us” saving “them” binary hasn’t really matured since, and this is where the problem lays.
I am owning up to these mistakes because I want to show that I am human and where I am at right now. Hopefully in another four years I have grown even more. I would also like to say thanks for putting up with that lull period. The reason Misfit Matriarch has become a regular thing again is because of all the encouragement and support I have received from around the globe. I tear up whenever someone mentions this blog in conversation with me or my friends, not realizing who this lil blogger is.
That’s it. Tomorrow I’ll post something angry and sarcastic.
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