I don’t hate Frozen

Spoiler alerts ahead …

Frozen is a big deal in our home, as it is in many homes, especially those who acquired the DVD earlier this week. Unlike every other “princess” movie, save Brave, I am not cringing over this. In fact, I am happy I have something silly to bond with my daughter over (or, even some friends. Let It Go is really catchy.)

I don’t let shit like Snow White and Sleeping Beauty in our home. It sneaks in sometimes in the form of a relative’s gift, but I think this has been happening less since I have been more vocal about my distaste for characters; the whitest, I mean, fairest, of them all using their only quality – beauty – to catch a man despite a jealous “uglier” woman’s evil plans. It is all women are objects … who hate each other! Rah rah!

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So we have our talks about this, she roles her eyes at me, but she gets it. I don’t care when she wears princess costume get-ups because it is her choice to make and I maintain an environment where it isn’t the only choice she has.

Frozen came along and she really digs it. (If we’re playing favourites, I still prefer Merida.) Elsa and Anna are Disney royalty that I am not opposed to. Do I think the movie was feminist? No. The sisters are the ideal formulated beauties and there isn’t any political message. I do not think it is offensive, as a feminist, either.

Oh, Merida
Oh, Merida

It is a story where the sisters share the all-powerful true love and not some prince charming. I don’t have a problem with one of the ladies having a boyfriend at the end, that’s A OK to have a relationship; It isn’t what the movie is about. Also, from the perspective of someone with pesky social anxiety issues, Elsa is cool (HAHA!) to me.

It is nice to share something with my kiddo, when I am so busy saying, “don’t believe that garbage” at every other screen we pass. So, Disney, I’m not giving you a standing ovation but I am saying thanks for not pumping out another Sleeping Beauty that I have to ban like the evil witch a feminist mom is made to be.

PS – The first to comment on this posted her musical take, check it out, made me giggle:

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Stop calling girls bossy

I wrote this for This.org but it is perfect for here too!

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Just yesterday I was laughing at how all of my daughter’s friends seemed to be just as bossy as her. They are all about six years old; very sure of who they are and what they want. At first, I thought it was a compliment. But then I thought: Why the need to point these attributes as bossy? Would I have done this had my nephew and his friends behaved the same way? Through some more research, I came across a project that points out that the “bossy” adjective, is a loaded one. Read more here

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To my six-year-old

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You turned 6 yesterday.

And the day before you lost your first tooth. These milestones are huge and as funny as it sounds when you say, “everything has changed,” since your tooth became wiggly, you’re right. You face changes every day- so bravely and with such a positive attitude. I want to take all the credit for the tiny wonder that is you: but it’s you, Baby Boop, you’re absolutely magnificent. You push me to keep going. Who can give up when they have your smile to look at? Not only do you get me through the day, I now look forward to the days to come.

You’re strong, kind and creative. You pick up on everything so quickly and have a startling great handle on comedic timing. You are wise beyond your years and stubborn in the most aggravating, yet pride-evoking, way. You’re the coolest person in the world. You are inspiring. My daughter, my best friend. You’re my wiggly tooth that made everything change for the better. Thank you for all the milestones we will continue to share together. I love you.

XOXO

Mommy

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