Media’s affects on males

Screen Shot 2015-08-28 at 1.12.29 PMThere is a lot of easy-to-find information out there on how Western media negatively affects females (which will be the topic of next week’s post in the series). The negative affects on males, specifically, were harder to find.

Media Smarts reports this is partly due to males not being as open as females. This feeling of guarded nonchalance is partly because of the constant media message that “real men” don’t care. They are either the fat and lazy guy too dumb to care or the macho manly man who is too cool to care. “A study by the UK National Health Service found that hospital admissions for men with eating disorders had risen by two-thirds between 2001 and 2011,” reports Media Smarts. Despite the messages I received from parents and males immediately after I crowd sourced via Facebook asking if males feel media pressure, their concerns are still difficult to address.

“[There is] Definitely body pressure. Television shows (sitcoms, serious ones, even cartoons) always had the coolest guy with the biggest muscles get the girl,” a male friend wrote me. This was echoed by a mother talking about her primary school aged son feeling body pressure, “the same as girls.”

Media Smarts states that males feel a need to conform to the average weight, if not especially athletic. Therefore they fear being too fat or too thin. Athletic males feel an immense pressure to look the part, turning to unhealthy lifestyles involving performance enhancing drugs.

Through interviews I learned that males feel a strong need to have the best of the best and the most up to date gadgets. And in order to “man up” and be a “manly man” this means the best tech toys, cars, clothes and BBQ know how. And though they are expected to know everything about everything, men are “too dumb” for women’s work. And if they aren’t above household chores and cooking they are emasculated, maybe, even, gay (The horror!)

There is an emphasis in media land on men needing to be tough no matter the amount of violence. Video games, movies, TV, ads, it’s everywhere. Violence = A  man.

When someone accused me of being sexist for being a feminist they posted me a link regarding a man aisle in a New York grocery store; full of beer, fat filled snacks and condoms. I understand the attempt at humour, but the message here is “You’re a dumb man,” or “You’re above women’s work.” And when our children see this aisle they are unable to separate the reality from the comedy.

A big topic, please feel free to reply with your input or contact me. Though please remember to read Commenting Policy before you do. Next week we’ll take a look at the media’s negative impact on females.

More TV, Less Self-Esteem, Except for White Boys an article by Mikaela Conley posted on ABC News May 30, 2012.

Next, Media affects on females.

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Media: Four part series

Writing about the media and it’s effect on children is no easy task.

Not only is it a complex issue, full of many sub-issues, there is an information overload due to so much, well, media. The same thing that provides us the opportunity for entertainment and enlightenment debilitates us from these benefits. It’s a real pickle we’re in. We have broadcast, print, Internet and outdoor media. We have advertisements “needing” to use more and more shocking images to catch consumer interest in a world of so much of everything. How do we teach children the difference between reality and what they see everywhere when they are still figuring the world out. It’s a blurry enough issue for many adults; we have post-secondary school courses on the matter, people make a living studying this stuff. Here I am, at 26, still shocked.

Females are seen as docile, needy, sex objects. Males are seen as stupid macho jocks or stupid and lazy. These two ideas put together end in catastrophe. These two ideas on their own end in personal conflict.

I am going to look at media affects on males, females and then what happens when the two worlds meet over the next month weeks. The last post will include a reference guide to the great books, sites and organizations out there with education on the topic. Please feel free to contact me or comment (Please read Commenting Policy) with your thoughts and questions.

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Zine proceeds go to AIDS walk

Our bud Nathan MacKinnon is walking in Scotiabank AIDS Walk For Life. From now until September 22 all zine profits from Misfit Matriarch’s Etsy shop will go towards sponsoring him.

Let’s get those productive feel good vibes going with a side of fun reading. Extra good news is Misfit Matriarch #2: Summer Hissy Fits will be released September 20th so if you already bought Misfit Matriarch #1: Nine Months of Blogging (and you don’t want another?!) you can still help out.

And/Or donate here!

Cheers!

XOXO Misfit

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Running With Scissors again

Due to the popularity of my post singing praises for stay at home mommy run shop Running With Scissors, I’m showing off a custom made piece!

I get a lot of compliments on my Patience necklace, as well as several other pieces I’ve picked up (and been gifted from lovely friends)

So you’re seeing it in mirror mode but you get the drift!

Enter coupon code 1HOTPOSTMAN for free shipping!

Baby Bear approved!

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Mommy Wars – Leslie Morgan Steiner

“Mommy wars” is a term used when stay-at-home moms are pitted against their paid-working counterparts.

The book Mommy Wars, edited by Leslie Morgan Steiner, is a collection of essays by 26 mothers talking about their own experiences.

It is promoted as “26 stay-at-home and career moms face off on their choices, their lives, and their families.” I personally think that summary does the book injustice and feeds into the pit-women-against-each-other mentality.

Image from Leslie Morgan Steiner’s website

The book isn’t about these women bashing each other, but explaining their choices, their life and their realizations. It serves as a way to put the shoe on the other foot. It also recognizes that stay-at-home and working are never as simple as their titles. There are women with a foot in each world. It looks at how income, race, upbringing, philosophies and education come into play among other interesting food for thought.

Though the title isn’t my favourite, it’s a worthwhile read. An added bonus for myself is the contributors are all mothers and writers – inspired!

Steiner is the author of Crazy Love, a memoir about her abusive first marriage. Haven’t read it yet but if you have, what did you think?

**UPDATE** Crazy Love was a good, relatable read. Though it tells the story of a textbook case of an abusive relationship, it is a memoir, thus doesn’t read like a textbook. I recommend this book!

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Angelina Wrona’s Hive

When I was in Quebec City last week I picked up some Angelina Wrona prints.

I want to collect every one to hang in my bedroom, I’m at ten now so I have a ways to go, I simply adore her work. Anyhoo, one of the three I picked up from Quebec Images was Hive. Figured it was appropriate enough to share here.

Image from AngelinaWrona.ca

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